The importance of maintaining romance in a long term relationship X

Have you ever wondered how a couple who have been together for years still love each other? If you didn’t know better, they could still be courting. Well, nutty ‘Professor’ Love has squeezed in a few minutes from her busy schedule to explain, and to provide some top tips on how to rectify the situation.

One of my many gifts is offering advice on sex and relationships to clients, imparting knowledge gained from years of dating different men in both professional and personnel capacities. It has occurred to me that romance is a bit of a dead dodo in modern relationships these days. The secret to keeping love alive is in putting forth the effort that you did when love was new. Like all things in life, you have to work at something if you want the best results. A lot of couples give up once they are together, taking each other for granted, wondering why their relationship is stale and lifeless.

Romance is key to happiness in a relationship and easily forgotten.

Romance can be defined as (reaches for leather cane, points at blackboard - ‘Professor’ Love is ‘old school’…):

* Small thoughtful actions that convey affection, admiration and love.

* Activities and actions executed for no other purpose than to enhance feelings of joy and happiness in your partner.

* Any action which brings a couple closer together.

Romancing can be achieved in many ways, including reminiscing about past experiences, participating in fun activities together, introducing new elements to your sex life (why not try a bit of light bondage?), spontaneously doing something adventurous and sharing a few giggles together.

Here are a few ideas to get you going (straightens seams on stockings):

* Surprise your partner with a bouquet of flowers

* Whisk them away for a delightful (or in my case dirty) weekend in Paris

* Hold the door open for your partner

* Visit or reminisce about a place where you laughed together

* Cook up a treat for them after work (doesn’t have to be lobster and caviar, something slightly exotic will do).

* Bring them along to see me! (I do genuinely cater for couples…more on that next month!)

The key to all of these is knowing your partner, as everyone is different. Once you understand what leaves them in a cool, cool sweat, you will be on the road to a happy relationship.

I hope you found that informative. Love can be a crazy little thing sometimes. I’m off now to continue writing my thesis on whether gin can be used as an aphrodisiac…The results have been mind blowing so far!